Forging My Own Path
Part 2 Releasing Social Conditioning
This is the second part of our three-part series together.
You can read my part one here:
And The Wild Medeina’s part one here:
I think most of us (and by that I mean those who are reading this) see ourselves, in some way, shape, or form, as trailblazers.
I broke from the mold cast for me at 25 when I divorced my then-husband and began to question the religion I grew up with.
It’s been 16 years of finding my own way, playing with life, and trying new things.
Some examples…
I got my first tattoo at 25…which, back in 2010, was still considered by society to be a taboo thing. I remember being told I’d have to hide it for a job, and even being asked at jobs to cover it up.
Now no one blinks an eye.
I’ve moved across the US from east to west twice!! And from west to South America and back north again.
Not many Americans have lived in other countries.
I didn’t have my child until I was 39 years old.
Most people my age have children graduating from high school right now.
I haven’t worked a 9-5 job since 2021. My last being teaching ESL in Colombia.
Freelancing is often seen as risky.
For good or for bad (though always ultimately good), every choice I’ve made that has gone against the norm has shaped who I am today.
One thing that has been new for me is being a mother. My daughter will turn three this year, and I’ve gone on two long trips in her life so far without her.
I won’t say I didn’t have hesitation, or even guilt around it, but at the time I felt it was the right thing to do, not just for me, but for her if you zoomed out.
When I went through my separation and divorce with her father…it shifted my relationship with her. I was no longer the center of her life. By creating space between her father and me, I actually made more room for her father and my parents in her life.
That is a decision I will never regret.
I know I have a secure attachment to her, and her me.
There are so many seemingly small but big-impact choices we make as parents as well. As a mom to a toddler, one now been potty training.
Next will come pre-school. Ideally, I want to put her in a nature school.
Now this is all seemingly normal and everyday kind of stuff. And if you’re a parent, you know how easy it is for others to tell you how they did things with a silent expectation that you should try it that way as well.
There is something to be said for those of us who have a vision of our future. I know how I want to raise my daughter, and I’m doing what I can now to lay a foundation for that. To shape it.
Not because some lady on Instagram told me to. Not because I think it will appease my parents or society at large.
I’m willing to risk in order to create the life I want.
One lived in nature…away from fluorescent lights. Where my daughter is homeschooled and wild. Where she has a childhood.
She could grow up to resent not going to public school.
I’m willing to take that risk.
If you are not living a life you want. That’s your fault.
If you’re worried about what others think…
One…that’s human.
Two…it’s a call to look inside yourself.
What do you truly have to lose by living and shaping your life to reflect what brings you joy?
People who don’t understand you?
People who judge you?
Things that stress you?
The how is found in looking at yourself. Fully.
Getting real with yourself about what you want and what is keeping you from going for it.
That’s not something that can be rushed either. It takes time to sit with yourself and really move through each layer of resistance.
How did you break free from social conditioning?
What does your free life look like? What have you created for yourself?
On June 27th, we will go live on Substack and explore these themes deeper at 1 pm ET/6 pm GMT.
Leave a comment with your thoughts or questions, and we will explore them on our live!
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Is this not how we should view life??
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Yessss!!!! Yess!!!! Love reading your writing!!
I beat you on every single that broke the rules-lol. I think I am one of the very first conscientious saw through the whole machine at 3 years old in the 1950’s when it was the McCarthy era and full on brainwashing was in its hey day. I Refused to play the game if being a nice girl my entire life. I’m 74 years old now. People think I look 60. Lives life on my own very feminist terms always. Since I’ve been there and done all of it. Self employed my entire life. Had my kids at home all natural with midwives- 15 years apart. I have a millennial son, 43 and a Gen Z daughter 28, I can tell you how much midwifery and the bringing up of children ideas changed over that time period. My daughter didn’t have a smart phone Until Grade 12 in 2016. I had my daughter during menopause and like many indigenous women nursed her when my periods finally stopped at 50. No hot flashes after that. Although I loved them. I missed having my period because it regulated time for me. I’m a grandma of a beautiful boy who is 3. Been through a divorce from hell now celebrating 30 years with my other soul mate. We live totally non status quo are “conspiracy theorists” from the 70’s. Lol. I’m a certified transformational Therapist, dream worker, shamanic healer, astrologer, galactic frequency channeler and a guide for women trying to conceive and for natural home birthing.