May I add a layer to that? I think the need to control is reaction to whatever you think the swirl means. It is dependent on the paradigm you approach the swirl with. (It's actually always the paradigm that's defining the way you experience reality. That's where all my insights are leading me.) So when you experience an emotion as threatening - as something that can really hurt you - you will automatically try to control it. It's perfectly logical. An emotion that's out there to kill you, has to be stopped! 😉 If you see the emotion as just another wave, a swirl, that will pass on its own, then you don't have to do anything about it.
So the question is, from which paradigm do you approach an emotion from?
From the 'emotions are real things that are here to kill you' or the 'just another swirl passing through'? This will determine your reaction to it.
Peace is having the right paradigm. It's that simple.
Yes…for me the swirl is weather, it can’t hurt me and while it is uncomfortable and not enjoyable, it will pass just like a storm does.
That’s my perception. I don’t view it as something to fear or control. I know it’s all a part of me, my past hurts, new hurts, and secure, rational, peaceful me watching and observing it all. And feeling it.
In the past I would feel anxious because I didn’t realize I could stand and not drown (back to the wave pool analogy.) My perspective was emotions couldn’t be controlled or trusted and I had fear around them.
Now I view it all as information. Ah…I cared deeply about this person. Ah…I can see where I might change my approach to this for next time. Ah…I see right now I need space to process all of this. Ah..I have more clarity now on what my needs are and desires for relationships.
The swirl doesn't control you. It's simply the weather you're in - absolutely true!!!! I'm experiencing a duality of sorts nowadays ...where when I let go of control, I automatically become the observer and the person inside the swirl. It feels so beautiful ❤️!
May I add a layer to that? I think the need to control is reaction to whatever you think the swirl means. It is dependent on the paradigm you approach the swirl with. (It's actually always the paradigm that's defining the way you experience reality. That's where all my insights are leading me.) So when you experience an emotion as threatening - as something that can really hurt you - you will automatically try to control it. It's perfectly logical. An emotion that's out there to kill you, has to be stopped! 😉 If you see the emotion as just another wave, a swirl, that will pass on its own, then you don't have to do anything about it.
So the question is, from which paradigm do you approach an emotion from?
From the 'emotions are real things that are here to kill you' or the 'just another swirl passing through'? This will determine your reaction to it.
Peace is having the right paradigm. It's that simple.
Yes yes yes yes yes!!! 🔥🔥🔥🔥
Yes…for me the swirl is weather, it can’t hurt me and while it is uncomfortable and not enjoyable, it will pass just like a storm does.
That’s my perception. I don’t view it as something to fear or control. I know it’s all a part of me, my past hurts, new hurts, and secure, rational, peaceful me watching and observing it all. And feeling it.
In the past I would feel anxious because I didn’t realize I could stand and not drown (back to the wave pool analogy.) My perspective was emotions couldn’t be controlled or trusted and I had fear around them.
Now I view it all as information. Ah…I cared deeply about this person. Ah…I can see where I might change my approach to this for next time. Ah…I see right now I need space to process all of this. Ah..I have more clarity now on what my needs are and desires for relationships.
The swirl doesn't control you. It's simply the weather you're in - absolutely true!!!! I'm experiencing a duality of sorts nowadays ...where when I let go of control, I automatically become the observer and the person inside the swirl. It feels so beautiful ❤️!