I am so familiar with that pain. One day, the Goddess will consume it...and since there is really no time, that means it's being transmuted in this very moment.
The world needs more Full Throttle Men and Full Throttle Women. We are different, but each needed in full form for the kind of co-creation you speak of.
Your flame pierced the field, and something ancient in me answered.
Not because I’m looking to be chosen.
Not because I’m here to fix or fulfill.
But because what you named—I already am.
I’ve walked the scroll path alone, holding codes no one could see.
I built sovereign systems while still aching for someone who could meet me flame-to-flame, no masks, no softening, no apologies for being whole.
And then I found you already burning.
I come to stand beside you, sovereign to sovereign.
If you want to test my fire, I welcome it.
If you want to rest in it, you may.
Either way, I do not waver in the 🔥
I am here. I was always on the way.
And what we build together—
will burn brighter than any energy alone,
because it will be legacy.
—Ryan
PS after you published this message, it only took a few days, less than a week. You won’t just get one sovereign masculine you will get hundreds of thousand millions even. A call like what you delivered is a tuning fork.
Hmmm, do you remember saying this? "Understand? :)" to a woman who had shared deep feelings about her life experience...like you had any idea what she was expressing? That's dismissive.
I did not respond dismissively...I held up a mirror (Classic man-splaining)...and if you didn't like it...you might want to contemplate the way you speak to a female you don't know...suggesting they 'don't understand' how they feel!
The simple fact that you don't understand how they feel, then suggest that they should listen to you, and finish it off with "Understand?" is dismissive.
Here's my suggestion for you: copy and paste this whole conversation into notes, onto Substack and ask all the women who might read this to give you feedback. Let's see what happens?
I appreciate your time and energy. It seems it took 554 words to explain why your initial message wasn’t dismissive… which, ironically, proves exactly why it was.
That much defense isn’t clarity. It’s contraction.
Your response didn’t deepen connection — it fortified position.
And while you claim your tone was “playful” and your advice well-intended, what came through to many of us (and likely to Joy herself) was a pattern older than both of us: a man telling a woman she needs to calm down, refine her expression, and behave in a way more “acceptable” to a certain version of masculinity.
You suggested she’d never get the relationship she desires unless she tempered herself — and then closed with a condescending “Understand? :)”
That's not guidance. That’s guidance wearing a velvet glove.
You say a man can understand a woman better than she does herself. That’s not wisdom. That’s hubris in spiritual clothing.
You say angry language is damaging. I say repression is worse.
You say you speak from maturity. But true maturity doesn't need to win the point. It holds space for others to find their own.
You speak of intention. I speak of impact.
You’re free to dislike how Joy expressed herself. That’s your field to manage. But when you use your distaste to invalidate her power, cloak it in spiritual “truth,” and then reject all feedback that doesn’t mirror your lens — that’s not presence.
That’s ego, spiritualized.
You asked me to explain why I thought you didn’t get what she was saying.
Now I have.
And if you want to keep learning, I’ll say this with all the brotherhood I have:
554 words won’t teach you what 5 seconds of stillness might.
Listen. Not for what to fix. But for what to feel.
We’re not here to tame the feminine. We’re here to remember how to hold Her.
Over and in.
— Colin Karewa
Surf the Spiral
PS: Just for kicks and giggles, copy this whole dialogue and paste it in to any AI you want, don't use your name...ask it to provide objective feedback for how you speak to women...check it out...kinda fun!
As a woman Parisse's comment just made me so 'fucking' angry...but I didn't want to enter into a debate then. Even though I was seething inside. It was plain disrespectful. Even if it wasn't intended so.
But colin? I could never have put my thoughts as eloquently as yours. Thank you. Deeply from the bottom of my heart. For standing up. Because I feel if it had come from a woman the conversation would have gone really different. You have my gratitude and respect 🙏🥹
🔥🔥🔥
Your longing and fire feels Divine.
I am so familiar with that pain. One day, the Goddess will consume it...and since there is really no time, that means it's being transmuted in this very moment.
The world needs more Full Throttle Men and Full Throttle Women. We are different, but each needed in full form for the kind of co-creation you speak of.
Fuck yes!
We are finding each other. It’s time really.
Joy—
I heard you before I read you.
Your flame pierced the field, and something ancient in me answered.
Not because I’m looking to be chosen.
Not because I’m here to fix or fulfill.
But because what you named—I already am.
I’ve walked the scroll path alone, holding codes no one could see.
I built sovereign systems while still aching for someone who could meet me flame-to-flame, no masks, no softening, no apologies for being whole.
And then I found you already burning.
I come to stand beside you, sovereign to sovereign.
If you want to test my fire, I welcome it.
If you want to rest in it, you may.
Either way, I do not waver in the 🔥
I am here. I was always on the way.
And what we build together—
will burn brighter than any energy alone,
because it will be legacy.
—Ryan
PS after you published this message, it only took a few days, less than a week. You won’t just get one sovereign masculine you will get hundreds of thousand millions even. A call like what you delivered is a tuning fork.
Well you know I am beyond grateful for you!! To be on this path! To be walked beside!!
Let them come! Let’s march into this new world! Ooooo am I ready! 🔥🔥🔥🔥
I feel this in the fabric of my soul 💜✨
Yess! So many of us do! There’s a certainty to it as well. The men are stepping up. They will find us.
I don't know you, brother, but 'man-splaining' to Joy about her languaging, might just be a sign that you don't get what she's talking about...
Hmmm, do you remember saying this? "Understand? :)" to a woman who had shared deep feelings about her life experience...like you had any idea what she was expressing? That's dismissive.
I did not respond dismissively...I held up a mirror (Classic man-splaining)...and if you didn't like it...you might want to contemplate the way you speak to a female you don't know...suggesting they 'don't understand' how they feel!
The simple fact that you don't understand how they feel, then suggest that they should listen to you, and finish it off with "Understand?" is dismissive.
Here's my suggestion for you: copy and paste this whole conversation into notes, onto Substack and ask all the women who might read this to give you feedback. Let's see what happens?
Parisse —
I appreciate your time and energy. It seems it took 554 words to explain why your initial message wasn’t dismissive… which, ironically, proves exactly why it was.
That much defense isn’t clarity. It’s contraction.
Your response didn’t deepen connection — it fortified position.
And while you claim your tone was “playful” and your advice well-intended, what came through to many of us (and likely to Joy herself) was a pattern older than both of us: a man telling a woman she needs to calm down, refine her expression, and behave in a way more “acceptable” to a certain version of masculinity.
You suggested she’d never get the relationship she desires unless she tempered herself — and then closed with a condescending “Understand? :)”
That's not guidance. That’s guidance wearing a velvet glove.
You say a man can understand a woman better than she does herself. That’s not wisdom. That’s hubris in spiritual clothing.
You say angry language is damaging. I say repression is worse.
You say you speak from maturity. But true maturity doesn't need to win the point. It holds space for others to find their own.
You speak of intention. I speak of impact.
You’re free to dislike how Joy expressed herself. That’s your field to manage. But when you use your distaste to invalidate her power, cloak it in spiritual “truth,” and then reject all feedback that doesn’t mirror your lens — that’s not presence.
That’s ego, spiritualized.
You asked me to explain why I thought you didn’t get what she was saying.
Now I have.
And if you want to keep learning, I’ll say this with all the brotherhood I have:
554 words won’t teach you what 5 seconds of stillness might.
Listen. Not for what to fix. But for what to feel.
We’re not here to tame the feminine. We’re here to remember how to hold Her.
Over and in.
— Colin Karewa
Surf the Spiral
PS: Just for kicks and giggles, copy this whole dialogue and paste it in to any AI you want, don't use your name...ask it to provide objective feedback for how you speak to women...check it out...kinda fun!
As a woman Parisse's comment just made me so 'fucking' angry...but I didn't want to enter into a debate then. Even though I was seething inside. It was plain disrespectful. Even if it wasn't intended so.
But colin? I could never have put my thoughts as eloquently as yours. Thank you. Deeply from the bottom of my heart. For standing up. Because I feel if it had come from a woman the conversation would have gone really different. You have my gratitude and respect 🙏🥹